The internet is useful for many things: shopping, snooping people’s facebook walls and getting minute to minute updates about Charlie Sheen’s latest antics.
Apparently, the internet is also very interested in my marital relationship.
Facebook. Remember when Facebook kept reminding you to reconnect with your friends? It assumed that since Varun and I are married and don’t write on each others walls every night, we must be sleeping in separate beds. Hence the frequent reminders to “reconnect”.
Our Honeymoon destination emailed me last week inviting us to “rekindle” our romance. Apparently, 2.3 years of marriage is more than enough to require rekindling.
The question is, do I really need to fly to South West florida for a free bottle of wine? Doubtful.
But. And there is always a “but”. The internet is on to something: relationships do take work. Remember when I said that I was considering the lack of real conflict represented on this blog? Well, folks, newsflash: sometimes our conflict is about more than what is considered proper breakfast food (salty? sweet?!). That being said, I’m still not sure how much of my dirty laundry I’d like to air to the blogosphere, Facebook Hackers and Charlie Sheen.
For now, I will say this. See this newlywed couple on their honeymoon? (It’s us, btw)
That night, they saw a manatee swimming in the bay. They worried about their finances over dinner. They quarreled about driving the speed limit (c’mon, it was 19 mph, who does that?!). They went home and basked in the loveliness of summer breezes and time together. They had a “discussion” about wet towels and wood furniture and how clean a room should be.
Love is tough work. Loving someone from a different background, who thinks and speaks a different language, who sees life and roles differently, is very tough work. We continue learning and loving because we know God gives us the grace to do it.
“May the God of endurance and encouragement grant you to live in such harmony with one another, in accord with Christ Jesus, that together you may with one voice glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.” Romans 15:5-6
“Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction”